Coming out

This week’s announcement by Pres. Obama that he was supportive of same-sex marriage and the reaction to it was very interesting to me. The first being the hype over him having that opinion and the subsequent debates ad nauseum. On that subject, this is how I look at it, what you do behind closed doors is your business, meth labs, terrorist plots and keeping sex slaves in your basement aside. If you love someone and you want to formally make a commitment to being with that person, I don’t see how that influences me in any way, no more than if you were a heterosexual couple. This whole argument about defining marriage is bullshit. It’s just discrimination hidden under various agendas. What really annoys me is when people make this statement that God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. According to my understanding, if you share the same parent that makes you brother and sister. So does that mean incest is ok? That’s a topic for another discussion.
Several things annoyed me about the news coverage of this statement. Immediately CNN, I am completely falling out of favor with recently, decided to create a poll. This poll was to get an opinion on how Pres. Obama’s position would affect him in the black community. The problem I have with that is the assumption that all black people have the same mindset. As if sharing a skin color makes us all think and do the same thing. By definition isn’t that racial bias? That was the first thing. The second was the attempt by CNN to interview ministers of black churches to get their reaction to Obama’s statement. If you follow me you will see that there is biased in their attitude towards black people. It’s as if we all go to the same church and we all have the same points of view. This assumption that the church dictates how we view the world is also condescending and illegitimate. What about those of us who don’t follow the church? What’s this assumption that all black people are the same faith? So that got under my skin a little bit, pardon the pun. The next move I fully expect is for them to interview Al Sharpton as some sort of representative of all black people. I don’t take anything away from Al Sharpton, he is who he is, but the suggestion that somehow he speaks for the mass is ridiculous. Black people are no different from any other group of people. We vary in points of view, taste, and everything else. The assumption that your skin color dictates your attitude towards life is by definition racial bias and they should be called on it.
Getting back to the original point of same-sex marriage; as an American it is our duty to pursue their ability to have the same rights as everyone else. In the Pledge of Allegiance, which we all were told to repeat as children, there is a line that states “liberty and justice for all”. How can you deny equality to anyone?
On the subject of homosexuality, my attitude towards it evolved over the course of my life. When I was young, I was very easily influenced by crowd mentality. I was strongly against anything that had to do with homosexuality. It was even to the point of threatening a classmate of mine with death if he ever decided to be gay. It wasn’t until I saw through my association with gay people how their struggle to be themselves affected them. I could relate to the pain of not feeling wanted or being an outcast simply because of who you are. It is no different than racial discrimination and we must treat it as such.


One Comment

  1. G

    Your evolution on your views towards gays mirrors mine, and probably many others. I count many gays amongst my friends, but I do not hold strong views one way or another on gay marriage. I agree that we should quit lumping people into groups and look at them as individuals. I also have a high distrust towards the mainstream media. But, the media taking this approach with the black community is nothing new. Diversity of thought and opinion amongst the black community often appears to be suppressed by the media. In the Trayvon Martin case, black neighbors & friends of George Zimmerman came to his defense, but their views were not widely reported. Black conservatives are often treated as not-really-black by the media. So, what is the litmus test for “being black”?


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